I'm saying, follow the flowchart. Then in very detailed terms, tell us exactly what you did and what you observed at each step.
If it is indeed a blown differential, the normal diagnostic routine isn't perfectly set up to diagnose that, so its important that you take detailed notes and articulate it well to us.
Donny, seized spider gears could explain the 'engaging' front driver wheel. But it doesn't explain the non-engaging passenger tire. Yes, both the diff and disconnect could be broken, or there could be some other explanation.
Even without lube, seizing the spider gears would require many one-wheel peels, which would be difficult in 4wd mode.