Finally time for an update on this...
Back in October, wife was driving the truck when the driveshaft went loose again. I met up with her and we switched cars. I pulled the shaft and put the truck in 4wd in order to get it home. It drove fine, but it was gushing trans fluid. After a while I pulled over and arranged to flat-tow it home. When I got it home the transmission wasn't engaging, no forward, no reverse. Life prevented me from working on the truck until now. I pushed it into the garage and got it up in the air.
I found out why the trans fluid gushed out...


This is the cast piece that goes between the transmission and the transfer case, where both bolt to the cross member.
Where do I even find this part???? And how do I test/check my transmission without having to put everything back together? If the trans isn't engaging, what should I look for?